And in most cases, such young men have gone out hopefully, looked over the available choices, selected a nice-looking, talented, spiritual girl, and cultivated her acquaintance. Often talented and personable themselves, it is usually not difficult to woo and win their chosen ladies.
Their reticence toward physical affection has been interpreted as a sign of good character. And so they have married. What happened next?
Did the predicted change take place immediately? What was this marriage like for their wives? For their children?
Is this the best answer for men — or women — with a homosexual orientation? It seems to me, that whether I am the bird holding the fish in my nest, or the fish holding the bird under water, as the one recognizing the distress of the other, it is up to me to let go. Should I curse the air or the water for giving an essential that I cannot, and without which the person I love is withering?
This is who I am; if we can walk together it will be lovely. It was not until I started looking that I found out why. Tidying the house one day, I found a postcard he had been using as a bookmark.
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It had been sent to him by another man, one he had clearly been seeing for some time. Its content was graphic and entirely unambiguous.
I burst into tears, the first of many howlings at the moon. We sat at the kitchen table and talked and cried. I was never angry because he was gay. Why have you strung me along? Was our marriage all a sham?
As we sat there, I thought he would now finally come out to me. We went to counselling, together and separately, and he persuaded both me and the counsellor that he was, infact, bisexual.
I was, and still am, in love with him, so I gave him another chance. We tried starting a family. I knew my clock was ticking, and if I split up with him, by the time I found someone else, it would have been too late. He would have been a brilliant father, too. Fundamentally, our relationship was good: We both loved gardening, travel, art and architecture.
We were having a great time. This was the life I wanted. I was committed as much to the lifestyle he offered as much as the man himself. I weep for my precious memories of our sex life, when I can only suppose he was pretending to enjoy himself. After we went to counselling, I chose to stay with him. That was 15 years ago.
I thought about hiring a detective, but there was no need. Did I never suspect?
I had queried whether the relationship was right, but not his sexuality. What hurts the most is that, since the day he took our wedding vows, he has never committed to being monogamous. In my darkest moments, I think I am simply a front, and I weep for my precious memories of our sex life, when I can only suppose he was pretending to enjoy himself. At other times, I think he cares for me very deeply and our sex life was, if not all he wanted, at least a part of it.
Is this really any different from any more conventional marriage? Would mine not have followed the same trajectory had I married a straight man?
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